On September 20th, in front of our families and closest friends, my now husband (!!) and I were married. Being engaged as an assisted living administrator (me) & physician (him) during a global pandemic was the worst. Cancelling our dream wedding in Italy (and the ceremony at my ALF for the residents) was the worst. Pulling a small domestic wedding together last minute was the worsttt – I even half hoped my weekly swab would come back positive so we could nix it and secretly elope. 😉 But that day.. it was the best.

My residents couldn’t be there, but in true form I took no time off (sorry husband) and showing them photos the following week was the [second] best. I laminated them and disinfected in between suite visits, of course. Along the way, I solicited some marital advice that was too good not to share:

1. First and foremost, put the ring on the correct finger at the altar (I at first thought this one was funny, until I learned I had to wear my engagement ring on my right hand down the aisle!)
2. The classic “never go to bed angry”; make sure to hash things out before you go to sleep, even if it keeps you up late
3. When you have children, remember that your spouse was there first 
4. Speaking of children, wear a girdle immediately after you give birth. Oh, and lay on your stomach as much as possible, “even when you eat dinner”.
5. Marry someone whose interests are similar to yours
6. However, if you want to do something and your spouse doesn’t, make sure you do it anyway – even if it’s without them. Be sure to keep your own identity, as well.
7. Be a united front to your kids, even if you disagree
8. Never do your husband’s laundry. If you start and do it once, you’ll be doing it for the rest of your life.
9. Don’t give up and throw in the towel when it gets hard, because it undoubtedly will
10. It’s not always going to be 50/50; make sure to compromise

Noted. ❤