On September 20th, in front of our families and closest friends, my now husband (!!) and I were married. Being engaged as an assisted living administrator (me) & physician (him) during a global pandemic was the worst. Cancelling our dream wedding in Italy (and the ceremony at my ALF for the residents) was the worst. Pulling a small domestic wedding together last minute was the worsttt – I even half hoped my weekly swab would come back positive so we could nix it and secretly elope. 😉 But that day.. it was the best.
My residents couldn’t be there, but in true form I took no time off (sorry husband) and showing them photos the following week was the [second] best. I laminated them and disinfected in between suite visits, of course. Along the way, I solicited some marital advice that was too good not to share:
- First and foremost, put the ring on the correct finger at the altar (I at first thought this one was funny, until I learned I had to wear my engagement ring on my right hand down the aisle!)
- The classic “never go to bed angry”; make sure to hash things out before you go to sleep, even if it keeps you up late
- When you have children, remember that your spouse was there first
- Speaking of children, wear a girdle immediately after you give birth. Oh, and lay on your stomach as much as possible, “even when you eat dinner”.
- Marry someone whose interests are similar to yours
- However, if you want to do something and your spouse doesn’t, make sure you do it anyway – even if it’s without them. Be sure to keep your own identity, as well.
- Be a united front to your kids, even if you disagree
- Never do your husband’s laundry. If you start and do it once, you’ll be doing it for the rest of your life.
- Don’t give up and throw in the towel when it gets hard, because it undoubtedly will
- It’s not always going to be 50/50; make sure to compromise